How many times have you ended up in an
argument with a loved one and they came up with this statement that leaves you
weak on your knees “ I didn’t mean it that way, I didn’t mean to hurt you”
Yesterday I shared a bone with a very close
friend of mine, and he told me some bitter truths about myself, very very
bitter, things I knew but didn’t want to hear from someone else, It left me
uptight and angry till the statement above came into play- “ I never intended
to hurt you, only someone who loves you will tell you the truth.” Oops! That really
really got to me.
When someone conceives a thought, he
expresses it to another, who understands it, and when required to reproduce it,
he/she does so according to how he understands and in the course of
reproduction, he gives it out in his own expression, and this goes on and on.
In the course of this, there is bound to be a misunderstanding, and this is
because we all differ in our approaches to life, way of reasoning and of course
temperaments.
Sometimes people care about us and
genuinely want to help us or do something for us. But at the end of the day, it
culminates into an argument. I’ve seen kind gestures gone awry. Yea, that didn’t come out right. I feel that
if we weigh the motive behind people’s actions, then consider whether it was
intended to hurt us or not, then some arguments will be forestalled and
relationships will be saved. I don’t mean to excuse those deliberate actions,
that very well may not be intended to hurt us but are definitely executed in
our disfavor- a cheating partner, a bitter betrayal, hurtful lashings etc. I am
talking about honest mistakes like – too much salt in the food, clothes burnt
during ironing, a mother’s corrective
measure, words that came out wrong during arguments. etc
So next time, before you react to those
words that didn’t come out right, think about the motive behind it. I have been
caught up in this mistake severally. Here’s to every opinion giver that I have
misunderstood, you are well loved by me, with a promise to assume you innocent
until proven guilty
