MOTIVE AND INTENT: GUILTY OR NOT GUILTY

How many times have you ended up in an argument with a loved one and they came up with this statement that leaves you weak on your knees “ I didn’t mean it that way, I didn’t mean to hurt you”

Yesterday I shared a bone with a very close friend of mine, and he told me some bitter truths about myself, very very bitter, things I knew but didn’t want to hear from someone else, It left me uptight and angry till the statement above came into play- “ I never intended to hurt you, only someone who loves you will tell you the truth.” Oops! That really really got to me.

When someone conceives a thought, he expresses it to another, who understands it, and when required to reproduce it, he/she does so according to how he understands and in the course of reproduction, he gives it out in his own expression, and this goes on and on. In the course of this, there is bound to be a misunderstanding, and this is because we all differ in our approaches to life, way of reasoning and of course temperaments.

Sometimes people care about us and genuinely want to help us or do something for us. But at the end of the day, it culminates into an argument. I’ve seen kind gestures gone awry.  Yea, that didn’t come out right. I feel that if we weigh the motive behind people’s actions, then consider whether it was intended to hurt us or not, then some arguments will be forestalled and relationships will be saved. I don’t mean to excuse those deliberate actions, that very well may not be intended to hurt us but are definitely executed in our disfavor- a cheating partner, a bitter betrayal, hurtful lashings etc. I am talking about honest mistakes like – too much salt in the food, clothes burnt during ironing,  a mother’s corrective measure, words that came out wrong during arguments. etc

So next time, before you react to those words that didn’t come out right, think about the motive behind it. I have been caught up in this mistake severally. Here’s to every opinion giver that I have misunderstood, you are well loved by me, with a promise to assume you innocent until proven guilty

Where art thou, my love

Sitting beside the fire 

Gazing at the sky 

The clouds are going home 

Where art thou, my fair prince 

The corn pops loudly 

With the rhythm of my heart 

My soul calls for you 

Where art thou, my dearest one 

My song can be heard 

It echoes far beyond 

I sit alone, waiting for you 

Where art thou, my soul mate 

I know you exist 

For my heart feels the ache 

The tightness in my chest 

Where art thou, my beloved 

I look far ahead 

Beyond what I see 

Deep into the future 

My love is coming home

For the sake of my Children.......

“The purest treasure mortal times afford is spotless reputation-that away, men are but glided loam, or painted clay”

William Shakespeare

A governor of Imo State once wrote on the walls of state that “ Politicians think of the next election, while leaders think of the next generation.”

Every time I passed the govt house roundabout, I read that quote with smiles on my face and said to myself, “how thoughtful this person could be”. 

How easily people swallow their words and choke on their promises while others look away.

Where exactly can the line be drawn between the current generation and the next generation? What thoughts do our leaders have for the next generation?  The biblical thoughts of Good not of evil as our heavenly Father has for us, or the proverbial thoughts of doom that King lion had for the animals as he lured them into his den?

The situation of our country leaves me with a lot to wonder and I must add, pray about. I have always found myself in leadership positions wherever I dared show my face, and something I always had, not at the back of my mind, but boldly written in my heart is POSTERITY. Are we humans really made of the same stuff or are others more “stuffier” than others? I believe true loyalty is not seen in the bag carrying respect that future ‘polithiefians’ have for you while you occupy a position they hope to benefit from, true loyalty is written in the hearts of the people, who after you are long gone and dead, will still be able to pick up their sWORDS  in defense of everything that concerns you, even your shortcomings.

Wherein lies posterity in the hearts of our leaders? Selfish interests have drowned the hopes and wails of the people

Greed has dwindled the light into the future of generations to come; our expectations have indeed been cut short

Who is a true leader?

One who dares to say ‘Nay’ when others roar ‘Aye’

One who speaks the mind of the people and lives their pain

One who at all times and all places resists the temptation of turning white into a desirable black.

One who thinks of building castles of riches only when the masses become the inhabitants of those mansions.

One who preaches EQUITY and EQUALITY

A faithful leader, Who can find!

Good morning NIGERIA

My people perish for lack of KNOWLEDGE- Hosea 4:6

I am a proud catholic, I remain one till I die despite the fact that marriage may prompt me to follow my husband to his church because “where he goes, I go”.

I have seen countless people say many things about the catholic church including those born in the catholic church but were ‘Sunday Sunday’ church goers , till they saw “the light”. Those people were never devoted to the church, so they can’t do not know in-depth what happens in the church. No offense meant though.

We do not worship Mary, I repeat  “we do not worship Mary,” we honor her. The use of images remind us of what they stand for, like when you have the picture of a loved one. Pray and ask the Holy Spirit who reveals all truth to give you understanding about this (see 2 Kings 3:20-21,Numbers 21:8-9,Exodus 25:17-22) you can inbox me for clarifications.

Whatever your conscience is against, has become a sin for you ( see Romans 14:22-23), so if your conscience doesn’t permit you to use them, then don’t.

Talking about idols, what greater idolatry is there than idolizing a man. Protestant churches are beginning to get with the program too. People place pictures of a man everywhere calling him papa and falling on his feet. God knows I revere every true man of God. People dress to church every Sunday to watch TV, there’s no point, watch it at home. About 10 years ago, Holy Communion wasn’t widely accepted by Protestants (except Anglicans) but today, everybody is breaking bread. Our sacramentals are frowned at, but these days, the kind of respect being given to mantles fear me (mantles are biblical)

I still ask, what is the war? Aren’t we all supposed to be interested in the work of salvation, isn’t it the same race? Is the enmity not between us and the devil? are we not all for the kingdom of God? Learn from Jesus!!!

“A kingdom divided against itself cannot stand” Mark 3:24

When the disciples complained about the non-members of their group working miracles, what did Jesus say?

“Do not try to stop him, because no one who performs a miracle in my name will say evil things about me later, for whoever is not against us, is for us.(see mark 9:38-40)

In the early church, there was division, some said they were for Paul, others Apollos, others Christ, but Paul rebuked them and made them understand that he (their papa Paul) did not die on the cross for him

Many people say, those are old testament practices, but I hope they search themselves well to see if they still “tithe”, or if they cling to the promises in the book of Isaiah, do they confess that “they shall not die,  but live”. Chai hypocrisy abounds in the church

Stop the criticisms and seek the kingdom of God. If you like preach against the Catholic Church till yesterday, we will still have members, and guess what! We will still tell you when to go for Easter, and you will still observe it. You have no choice.

Lay down your swords, or better still, take it up and fight the devil.

Many people won’t be happy I said this, and guess again? ORJI UCHECHI don talk im own oooooo.

YES YOU CAN: LIMITLESS

The Lord said, “Look! They are one people with the same language for all of them, and this is only the beginning of what they will do. Nothing they have a mind to do will be impossible for them.” Genesis  11:6

Man was made by God in His image and likeness, the Omnipotent God structured man to be just like Him (Genesis 1: 27). I don’t think we truly get the Infinity of God’s attributes and powers, we may not be able to fully comprehend it no matter how hard we tried (Romans 11 : 33) and this is more reason why we shouldn’t try to comprehend the extent of our strengths, we should just believe that “WE CAN”. Our maker has been described as Wise, Infinite, sovereign, Holy, Faithful, Omniscient, Omnipresent and OMNIPOTENT.  If God who is able to do all things had in mind during the creation of man to mould someone who shares the same characteristics as Him, then the apple shouldn’t fall far from the tree. Most times the chains that bind us, the powers that limit us come from within, they live in our heads and speak in our hearts. We set the boundaries of our achievements.

I am a firm believer that whatever you set your heart out on, you will definitely achieve it. It has played out in every experience of my life. God gave man almost a limitless power by making us a little lower than the angels (Psalm 8 : 5)

He also acknowledged this with his own words as played out in the opening scriptures

If God himself believes this much in your abilities then why should you doubt your capabilities

A word of encouragement goes out to everyone who is facing one problem or the other

Struggling with an addiction

Stuck up with a project

Dealing with a loss

Living with a disability

Tired of living etc

“YOU CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHO STRENGTHENS YOU”(Philippians 4: 13) – this very quotation has formed an indispensible part of my boost, it has been my mantra through dealing with my struggles and believe me, they have been many.

No apologies for going so biblical,

Being Christian is my way of life

Living His words is what I do

ORJI UCHECHI

WHO WOULD YOU BE

If you were given a blank slate- What would you write on it?

If you were given a penny for all your thoughts - How rich would you be?

If “WHAT DO YOU DRIVE?” were to be replaced by  “WHAT DRIVES YOU?” - Which course would you be steering?

If you could be all you wanted to be- Who would you be?

What exactly is your MOTIVATION?

What inspires YOU?

What gives you the will to carry on against all odds?

If you had all the money in the world- What would you do with it?

I would write LOVE

I would be the wealthiest person alive

I would preach PEACE

I would be that person remembered by the world, the one who makes God proud

Money doesn’t move me

Faith gives me the will to carry on

If I had all the money in the world, I would be me, remembering HUMANITY, touching LIVES, SPEAKING for the voiceless, HELPING the helpless

If I had all the money in the world, my pockets would be empty, but my heart would be full, full of joy in knowing that souls are being saved, the hungry are being fed, the limbless can walk again.

I would have joy knowing that HUMANITY is RESTORED

MAKE SOMEONE SMILE TODAY

HELP A SOUL TODAY

ORJI UCHECHI

MEMOIRS by Anonymous

I was dripping wet, apparently from the rain falling unending, I hurriedly entered the hall where other participants were seated for the job interview. There he was, my partner of 3 years twice removed- now a stranger. He handed over a paper to me “Mimidoo, here are the questions you should expect when its your turn” I closed my eyes to prevent the tears from flowing, my makeup was already half ruined by the rain. Segun, has always been my knight in shining armour, coming to my rescue whenever I didn’t need it.

Tom, tom tom.. my wide open mouth received droplets of water from the leaking roof, I jolted up from the make shift bed. Oh! So it was all a dream. For the fourth time in one week, images of Segun haunted my dreams, and his thoughts made my waking moments miserable. We met as students, became friends before taking our friendship a little lower than the highest level. Segun was the fantasy of all the female students, but I was privileged to have him to myself, the lady of his manor. As an undergraduate, I was quite a sight to behold, whenever I made an entrance, everyone else faded into oblivion. Was it the beauty? Maybe it was the charisma, I couldn’t tell which but I was aware that the aura that oozed had both males and females wishing and a handful of ladies hating. I and Segun couldn’t have been better matched. Thanks to Blaze who invited me to his departmental freshers’ night.

Sage was the name I made for him. A meaningful derivative of the bivalved form of Segun. He was way beyond my reach now. We broke up in a friendly bitter manner and it was entirely my fault. The cravings couldn’t seem to stop, I wanted more and more. The attention I was getting  from eligible males latched onto my eyes like blinders, I became unable to separate the wheat from the chaff. It continued that way until I couldn’t bear it any more, I stormed out from Sage’s house over a minor resolvable issue and never looked back, and he didn’t bother to draw me back, not that I cared at that moment.

Years later I met  Tunde , Tunde was a native of one of the major tribes in the country, the same as Segun, I was from a lesser tribe, migrants from the present day Congo.  Tunde was a man to be yoked with anytime of the day if you loved them unserious, for some reason , the “good girl- bad boy” phenomenon possessed me and I found myself in his deceitful arms. After series of abortions and 2 years in a drug rehabilitation facility, I needed to break free from my self -imposed bondage, I had to heal from the damages inflicted on me by that disastrous relationship. I was ready to go clean and start afresh, I lost contact with most of my friends and I wasn’t even sure of who will be true to me as a friend. Trust had become priceless. My mind went back to Segun

Segun- the man of my dreams, Segun- my unattainable fantansies,  he was beyond my reach now. Sage had become my Forbidden obsession. Far away, yet so near.